How to Plan a Funeral: A Step-By-Step Guide for Families

December 5, 2024
Understanding how to plan a funeral is never easy, whether it's your first time or you've done it before. Balancing the logistics with your grief can be overwhelming. But don't worry—we're here to help guide you through each step so you can focus on honoring your loved one in the most meaningful way. Here are simple steps that'll help you plan a funeral that is seamless and memorable.

How to Plan a Funeral: A Step-By-Step Guide for Families

  1. Assign a Point Person
  2. Find a Funeral Home/Mortuary
  3. Contact Funeral Home
  4. Review Pre-Arranged Funeral Plans
  5. Gather Funds
  6. Confirm Funeral Type
  7. Plan Logistics
  8. Create an Obituary & Media Assets
  9. Send Invitations

Step 1: Assign a Point Person

Choosing the right person to manage funeral planning is essential. Start by picking someone responsible for handling the funeral planning. This person could be a close family member or a trusted friend. They will coordinate with others, manage communications with funeral providers, and keep everything on track.

Step 2: Find a Funeral Home/Mortuary

To help find the best funeral home or mortuary provider near you, use Google to search for "funeral providers near me" or "mortuaries near me." This method will give you a good list of options to start with.

Next, we recommend checking with local religious organizations, such as churches or mosques. These organizations often prefer funeral service providers. 

Lastly, ask friends or family if they have any recommendations based on their experiences.

Step 3: Contact Funeral Homes/Mortuaries

Once you find these providers, contact them to discuss the range of services they offer, from arranging the service to handling legal paperwork.

To avoid surprises, you can request a detailed breakdown of costs, including service fees, caskets, cremation, and any other expenses.

From here, you can compare different providers based on their services, reputation, and cost to find the best fit for your needs.

Step 4: Review Pre-Arranged Funeral Plans

If your loved one had pre-arranged plans, review them to see what was already set up. If not, consult with family members to decide on the best approach regarding planning.

It's important to examine any wills or trusts for instructions or financial arrangements related to the funeral. It's also a good idea to contact any involved attorneys to discuss legal matters. They will be able to provide context into what your loved one left behind and include any beneficiary information.

Step 5: Gather Funds

Gathering funds for a funeral can be difficult, especially if the loss was unexpected or if your loved one didn't have a will or trust set up. Consider setting up a crowdfunding campaign (like GoFundMe) to gather donations from friends and family to help with costs.

Checking whether life insurance policies can help cover funeral expenses is important. Your loved one could have policies set up from their employer or directly through insurance companies. Lastly, you can contact your bank or credit union and explore personal loans to help cover funeral expenses.

The average funeral typically costs between $7,000 and $12,000, which includes expenses such as the viewing, burial, service fees, transportation, casket, embalming, and other preparations. For funerals with cremation, the average cost ranges from $6,000 to $7,000. However, these prices do not cover additional costs like cemetery plots, monuments, markers, or items such as flowers.

Step 6: Confirm Funeral Type

The next step is for the family to decide on service details. It's essential to decide whether you want a full funeral service or a memorial service. Also, consider any flower arrangements or other information you might want.

The family will need to choose a casket or urn that fits your loved one's preferences and your family's wishes. Discuss options with the funeral home to make an informed choice.

Step 7: Logistic Planning

Next, you must choose where the service will be held—at a funeral home, church, or another venue. Make any necessary reservations or obtain permits.

Once the venue is selected, you will need to set up a way for people to send flowers or make donations. Provide an address where these items can be sent.

Step 8: Create an Obituary & Media Assets

A proper sendoff is important, you want everyone to be able to see all of the meaningful accomplishments your loved one had and the impact they had on the world. Write a heartfelt obituary highlighting your loved one's life, achievements, and service details. Include pictures, videos, stories, etc, in these memorials. Tools like Canva, Microsoft PowerPoint, and ChatGPT can help you create a polished obituary.

Once these assets are created, they can be shared with the world through newspapers, schools, churches, and online platforms like Facebook memorial pages.

You can also consider using Digistone for a personalized memorial option that includes a personalized keepsake connected to a digital memorial. For more information, view our site here.

Step 9: Send Invitations

We understand that contacting guests to attend this sendoff can take time and effort. It's important to make a list of people to invite, including family, friends, and colleagues. Anybody that your loved one has impacted.

To communicate with the masses, consider using social media (Instagram, Facebook, X-Twitter) and messaging apps (WhatsApp, GroupMe) to notify everyone about the funeral arrangements and any relevant details.

Planning a funeral involves many steps, but breaking it down can make it more manageable. By following these steps, you can ensure a meaningful and respectful tribute to your loved one. If you have any questions or need more support, we're here to help. Our deepest condolences go out to you during this difficult time.